Develop Effective Communication Skills Through Listening

Hello? I just said: Are your communication skills effective?
This basically advises us to remove these so-called listening blocks that prevent you from communicating effectively, that is:
* Try not to be a mind reader * And definitely stop judging
I particularly need to concentrate on not sparring - not being argumentative - Don’t criticize!
And effective communication is not just about listening well. You can develop good communication skills through other means like effective interpersonal communication skills such as: showing respect, focusing on the other person opinion, checking body language and considering your response, etc.

Listening in needs to be honed and practiced to be truly effective.
Mind Reading: “The mind reader pays more attention to sounds and devious clues rather than the actual words spoken in the effort to see the real truth. A mind reader tends to make assumptions and judgments about how people react.

Filtering: Filtering is when you listen to some things and not to others. You pay more attention to see if someone is angry or upset. People also filter to avoid hearing negative or critical things.

Judging: If you pre judge someone as being stupid or unqualified you don't pay attention to what they say. Negative labels have enormous power. A basic rule of listening is that judgments should only be made after you have heard and evaluated the content of the message.

Sparring: The sparring block causes argument and debate with people. The focus is finding things to disagree with. The best way to avoid sparring is to repeat back and acknowledge what you've heard. Look for one thing you might agree with.

The Put Down: The put down is a type of sparring. You use demeaning remarks to dismiss the other person's point of view. The put down is the standard block in many marriages. Another type of sparring is discounting. Discounting is used by people who can't stand compliments. Discounting is a technique that runs yourself down when you get a compliment. The other person doesn't feel satisfied that you really heard the appreciation and they are right, you didn't.

Your effective communication skills list needs to include good listening skills. Listening is essential for effective communication. The listening blocks mentioned are barriers to good listening. Awareness of these listening blocks is the first important step to improve listening skills, and create mutual understanding in communication. Distracting and destructive thought patterns, such as in these examples, can be barriers to good listening. By developing good listening skills you will see great improvements in your ability to communicate.

Be Brief, Be sincere, Be Seated..

Cheers!