1. "Self-confidence is the result of a successfully survived risk."
2. "Cowards die many times before their deaths."
3. "When we have the courage to speak out – to break our silence – we inspire the rest of the 'moderates' in our communities to speak up and voice their views." - Sharon Schuster
4. "The man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled." - Andrew Carnegie
5. "Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear."
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
[ToP] Shy Nerd Can't Even Order Pizza
Hey Friends,
Don't you just hate it when you want to talk to someone but you don't know what to say? It's frustrating as heck because it means you:
- DON'T chat with coworkers and customers, which hurts your chances at getting promoted in this tough economy.
- DON'T meet strangers at parties and other social events (if you even go to them) so you end up looking like a weird loner.
- DON'T know any great girls or guys because you don't meet enough quality members of the opposite sex.
- DON'T connect with friends and family, which actually makes you (most likely unconsciously) feel lonely and angry. Be honest, when was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with each member of your family?
This is why I believe learning good conversation skills could be the most important skill you EVER learn.
People are everywhere and you need to connect with them to be successful even if you're extremely shy like I once was.
You cannot live a happy, successful, fulfilling life if you're like Golem from the Lord of the Rings, hidden away from people in the darkness.
You're preciousssssss. You deserve to make great friends because it's your birth-right to be social and happy.
Fortunately for you, I've put all the answers to overcoming anxiety, shyness, social awkwardness, silence in conversation, tongue- tied moments, problems making friends... you name it into one resource called "Big Talk".
Build friends and influence people,
Usman Olayinka (How to master good communication skill and confidence)
Readers are leaders.
Don't you just hate it when you want to talk to someone but you don't know what to say? It's frustrating as heck because it means you:
- DON'T chat with coworkers and customers, which hurts your chances at getting promoted in this tough economy.
- DON'T meet strangers at parties and other social events (if you even go to them) so you end up looking like a weird loner.
- DON'T know any great girls or guys because you don't meet enough quality members of the opposite sex.
- DON'T connect with friends and family, which actually makes you (most likely unconsciously) feel lonely and angry. Be honest, when was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with each member of your family?
This is why I believe learning good conversation skills could be the most important skill you EVER learn.
People are everywhere and you need to connect with them to be successful even if you're extremely shy like I once was.
You cannot live a happy, successful, fulfilling life if you're like Golem from the Lord of the Rings, hidden away from people in the darkness.
You're preciousssssss. You deserve to make great friends because it's your birth-right to be social and happy.
Fortunately for you, I've put all the answers to overcoming anxiety, shyness, social awkwardness, silence in conversation, tongue- tied moments, problems making friends... you name it into one resource called "Big Talk".
Build friends and influence people,
Usman Olayinka (How to master good communication skill and confidence)
Readers are leaders.
Develop Effective Communication Skills Through Listening
Hello? I just said: Are your communication skills effective?
This basically advises us to remove these so-called listening blocks that prevent you from communicating effectively, that is:
* Try not to be a mind reader * And definitely stop judging
I particularly need to concentrate on not sparring - not being argumentative - Don’t criticize!
And effective communication is not just about listening well. You can develop good communication skills through other means like effective interpersonal communication skills such as: showing respect, focusing on the other person opinion, checking body language and considering your response, etc.
Listening in needs to be honed and practiced to be truly effective.
Mind Reading: “The mind reader pays more attention to sounds and devious clues rather than the actual words spoken in the effort to see the real truth. A mind reader tends to make assumptions and judgments about how people react.
Filtering: Filtering is when you listen to some things and not to others. You pay more attention to see if someone is angry or upset. People also filter to avoid hearing negative or critical things.
Judging: If you pre judge someone as being stupid or unqualified you don't pay attention to what they say. Negative labels have enormous power. A basic rule of listening is that judgments should only be made after you have heard and evaluated the content of the message.
Sparring: The sparring block causes argument and debate with people. The focus is finding things to disagree with. The best way to avoid sparring is to repeat back and acknowledge what you've heard. Look for one thing you might agree with.
The Put Down: The put down is a type of sparring. You use demeaning remarks to dismiss the other person's point of view. The put down is the standard block in many marriages. Another type of sparring is discounting. Discounting is used by people who can't stand compliments. Discounting is a technique that runs yourself down when you get a compliment. The other person doesn't feel satisfied that you really heard the appreciation and they are right, you didn't.
Your effective communication skills list needs to include good listening skills. Listening is essential for effective communication. The listening blocks mentioned are barriers to good listening. Awareness of these listening blocks is the first important step to improve listening skills, and create mutual understanding in communication. Distracting and destructive thought patterns, such as in these examples, can be barriers to good listening. By developing good listening skills you will see great improvements in your ability to communicate.
Be Brief, Be sincere, Be Seated..
Cheers!
This basically advises us to remove these so-called listening blocks that prevent you from communicating effectively, that is:
* Try not to be a mind reader * And definitely stop judging
I particularly need to concentrate on not sparring - not being argumentative - Don’t criticize!
And effective communication is not just about listening well. You can develop good communication skills through other means like effective interpersonal communication skills such as: showing respect, focusing on the other person opinion, checking body language and considering your response, etc.
Listening in needs to be honed and practiced to be truly effective.
Mind Reading: “The mind reader pays more attention to sounds and devious clues rather than the actual words spoken in the effort to see the real truth. A mind reader tends to make assumptions and judgments about how people react.
Filtering: Filtering is when you listen to some things and not to others. You pay more attention to see if someone is angry or upset. People also filter to avoid hearing negative or critical things.
Judging: If you pre judge someone as being stupid or unqualified you don't pay attention to what they say. Negative labels have enormous power. A basic rule of listening is that judgments should only be made after you have heard and evaluated the content of the message.
Sparring: The sparring block causes argument and debate with people. The focus is finding things to disagree with. The best way to avoid sparring is to repeat back and acknowledge what you've heard. Look for one thing you might agree with.
The Put Down: The put down is a type of sparring. You use demeaning remarks to dismiss the other person's point of view. The put down is the standard block in many marriages. Another type of sparring is discounting. Discounting is used by people who can't stand compliments. Discounting is a technique that runs yourself down when you get a compliment. The other person doesn't feel satisfied that you really heard the appreciation and they are right, you didn't.
Your effective communication skills list needs to include good listening skills. Listening is essential for effective communication. The listening blocks mentioned are barriers to good listening. Awareness of these listening blocks is the first important step to improve listening skills, and create mutual understanding in communication. Distracting and destructive thought patterns, such as in these examples, can be barriers to good listening. By developing good listening skills you will see great improvements in your ability to communicate.
Be Brief, Be sincere, Be Seated..
Cheers!
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