Communications Strategy

There are five strategic steps in communication:

• Decide WHAT you wish to communicate
• Decide TO WHOM you wish to communicate
• Think about the BIASES of the listener
• Decide HOW you should communicate
• COMPOSE and TRANSMIT your message

These simple steps are mind-intensive and require you to think well before making any form of speech. Be it formally or informally. It will breed respect for who you are and what you propose to be. People will want to listen to you because they know everytime you open your mouth to speak, you are very much aware of them and have tailored your speech towards them.

Start practising these steps in little conversations that you make everyday e.g. amongst your colleagues, amongst family members, amongst your friends. Give yourself a definite period of time, say one week, after which you'll personally check your progress. Keep at it for about a month and before you know it, it will become a part of you that you will definitely carry to the stage or to the pulpit.


....Ayeni Tolulope Mercy 

How to master good communication skill and confidence


Be Brief, Be sincere, Be Seated..

Confidence and Fear

1. "Self-confidence is the result of a successfully survived risk."

2. "Cowards die many times before their deaths."

3. "When we have the courage to speak out – to break our silence – we inspire the rest of the 'moderates' in our communities to speak up and voice their views." - Sharon Schuster

4. "The man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled." - Andrew Carnegie

5. "Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear."

[ToP] Shy Nerd Can't Even Order Pizza

Hey Friends,


Don't you just hate it when you want to talk to someone but you don't know what to say? It's frustrating as heck because it means you:


- DON'T chat with coworkers and customers, which hurts your chances at getting promoted in this tough economy.


- DON'T meet strangers at parties and other social events (if you even go to them) so you end up looking like a weird loner.


- DON'T know any great girls or guys because you don't meet enough quality members of the opposite sex.


- DON'T connect with friends and family, which actually makes you (most likely unconsciously) feel lonely and angry. Be honest, when was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with each member of your family?


This is why I believe learning good conversation skills could be the most important skill you EVER learn.


People are everywhere and you need to connect with them to be successful even if you're extremely shy like I once was.


You cannot live a happy, successful, fulfilling life if you're like Golem from the Lord of the Rings, hidden away from people in the darkness.
You're preciousssssss. You deserve to make great friends because it's your birth-right to be social and happy.


Fortunately for you, I've put all the answers to overcoming anxiety, shyness, social awkwardness, silence in conversation, tongue- tied moments, problems making friends... you name it into one resource called "Big Talk".


Build friends and influence people,
Usman Olayinka (How to master good communication skill and confidence)




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